Stress is a fact of life, but being stressed out is not. We don't always have control over what happens to us, says Allen Elkin, Ph.D., director of the Stress Management Counseling Center in New York City, and yet, that doesn't mean we have to react to a difficult, challenging situation by becoming frazzled or feeling overwhelmed or distraught. Being overly anxious is not just a mental hazard; it's a physical one too. The more stressed out we are the more vulnerable we are to colds, flu, and a host of chronic or life-threatening illnesses. And the less open we are to the beauty and pleasure of life. For your emotional and bodily benefit, we've consulted experts and come up with 37 easy, natural alternatives to anxiety. Enjoy!
  1. Breathe Easily
            "Breathing from your diaphragm oxygenates your blood, which helps              you relax almost instantly," says Robert Cooper, Ph.D., the San Francisco              coauthor of The Power of 5 (Rodale Press, 1996), a book of five-second              and five-minute health tips. Shallow chest breathing, by contrast,              can cause your heart to beat faster and your muscles to tense up,              exacerbating feelings of stress. To breathe deeply, begin by putting              your hand on your abdomen just below the navel. Inhale slowly through              your nose and watch your hand move out as your belly expands. Hold              the breath for a few seconds, then exhale slowly. Repeat several times.     
       2. Visualize Calm
              It sounds New Age-y, but at least one study, done at the Cleveland                Clinic Foundation, has found that it's highly effective in reducing                stress. Dr. Cooper recommends imagining you're in a hot shower and                a wave of relaxation is washing your stress down the drain. Gerald                Epstein, M.D., the New York City author of Healing Visualizations                (Bantam Doubleday Dell Press, 1989), suggests the following routine:                Close your eyes, take three long, slow breaths, and spend a few                seconds picturing a relaxing scene, such as walking in a meadow,                kneeling by a brook, or lying on the beach. Focus on the details -- the                sights, the sounds, the smells.                   
       3. Make Time for a Mini Self-Massage
              Maria Hernandez-Reif, Ph.D., of the Touch Research Institute at                the University of Miami School of Medicine, recommends simply massaging                the palm of one hand by making a circular motion with the thumb                of the other. Or use a massage gadget. The SelfCare catalog offers                several, such as the S-shaped Tamm unit, that allow you to massage                hard-to-reach spots on your back. For a free catalog, call 800-345-3371                or go to www.selfcare.com.    
       4. Try a Tonic
              A study at Duke University in Durham, NC, found homeopathy effective                in quelling anxiety disorders. Look for stress formulas such as                Nerve Tonic (from Hyland) or Sedalia (from Boiron) in your health                food store, or consult a licensed homeopath. To find one near you,                contact the National Center for Homeopathy, 801 North Fairfax St.,                Suite 306, Alexandria, VA 22314; 703-548-7790 or go to www.healthy.net/nch/.     
                    5. Say Cheese
              Smiling is a two-way mechanism. We do it when we're relaxed and                happy, but doing it can also make us feel relaxed and happy. "Smiling                transmits nerve impulses from the facial muscles to the limbic system,                a key emotional center in the brain, tilting the neurochemical balance                toward calm," Dr. Cooper explains. Go ahead and grin. Don't you                feel better already?      
                   6. Do Some Math
              Using a scale of one to 10, with one being the equivalent of a minor                hassle and 10 being a true catastrophe, assign a number to whatever                it is that's making you feel anxious. "You'll find that most problems                we encounter rate somewhere in the two to five range -- in other                words, they're really not such a big deal," says Dr. Elkin. 
 7. Stop Gritting Your Teeth
            Stress tends to settle in certain parts of our bodies, the jaw being              one of them. When things get hectic, try this tip from Dr. Cooper:              Place your index fingertips on your jaw joints, just in front of your              ears; clench your teeth and inhale deeply. Hold the breath for a moment,              and as you exhale say, "Ah-h-h-h," then unclench your teeth. Repeat              a few times.            
           8. Compose a Mantra
              Devise an affirmation -- a short, clear, positive statement that                focuses on your coping abilities. "Affirmations are a good way to                silence the self-critical voice we all carry with us that only adds                to our stress," Dr. Elkin says. The next time you feel as if your                life is one disaster after another, repeat 10 times, "I feel calm.                I can handle this."             
       9. Check Your Chi
              Qigong (pronounced chee-gong) is a 5,000-year-old Chinese practice                designed to promote the flow of chi, the vital life force that flows                throughout the body, regulating its functions. Qigong master Ching-Tse                Lee, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at Brooklyn College in New                York, recommends this calming exercise: Stand with your feet shoulder-width                apart and parallel. Bend your knees to a quarter-squat position                (about 45 degrees) while keeping your upper body straight. Observe your                breathing for a couple of breaths. Inhale and bring your arms slowly                up in front of you to shoulder height with your elbows slightly                bent. Exhale, stretching your arms straight out. Inhale again, bend                your elbows slightly and drop your arms down slowly until your thumbs                touch the sides of your legs. Exhale one more time, then stand up                straight.             
       10. Be a Fighter
              "At the first sign of stress, you often hear people complain, 'What                did I do to deserve this?'" says Dr. Cooper. The trouble is, feeling                like a victim only increases feelings of stress and helplessness.                Instead, focus on being proactive. If your flight gets canceled,                don't wallow in self-pity. Find another one. If your office is too                hot or too cold, don't suffer in silence. Call the building manager                and ask what can be done to make things more comfortable.             
       11. Put It on Paper
              Writing provides perspective, says Paul J. Rosch, M.D., president                of the American Institute of Stress in Yonkers, NY. Divide a piece                of paper into two parts. On the left side, list the stressors you                may be able to change, and on the right, list the ones you can't.                "Change what you can," Dr. Rosch suggests, "and stop fretting over                what you can't."             
       12. Count to 10
              Before you say or do something you'll regret, step away from the                stressor and collect yourself, advises Dr. Cooper. You can also                look away for a moment or put the caller on hold. Use your time-out                to take a few deep breaths, stretch, or recite an affirmation.  
 13. Switch to Decaf
            Wean yourself slowly, or you might get a caffeine-withdrawal headache              that could last for several days, cautions James Duke, Ph.D., the              Fulton, MD, author of The Green Pharmacy (Rodale Press, 1997).              Subtract a little regular coffee and add some decaf to your morning              cup. Over the next couple of weeks, gradually increase the proportion              of decaf to regular until you're drinking all decaf. You should also              consider switching from regular soft drinks to caffeine-free ones              or sparkling mineral water.                 
       14. Just Say No
              Trying to do everything is a one-way ticket to serious stress. Be                clear about your limits, and stop trying to please everyone all                the time.           
       15. Take a Whiff
              Oils of anise, basil, bay, chamomile, eucalyptus, lavender, peppermint,                rose, and thyme are all soothing, say Kathy Keville and Mindy Green,                coauthors of Aromatherapy: A Complete Guide to the Healing Art                (Crossing Press, 1995). Place a few pieces of rock salt in a small                vial, then add a couple of drops of the oil of your choice (the                rock salt absorbs the oil and is much less risky to carry around                in your purse than a bottle of oil). Open the vial and breathe in                the scent whenever you need a quick stress release. Look for the                oils in your local health food store, or try one of the following                mail-order companies: Aroma-Vera, 5901 Rodeo Rd., Los Angeles, CA                90016, 800-669-9514; or Leydet Aromatics, P.O. Box 2354, Fair Oaks,                CA 95628, 916-965-7546.          
       16. Warm Up
              Try this tip from David Sobel, M.D., in San Jose, CA, author of                The Healthy Mind, Healthy Body Handbook (I S H K Book Service,                1997) : Rub your hands together vigorously until they feel warm.                Then cup them over your closed eyes for five seconds while you breathe                deeply. The warmth and darkness are comforting.            
           17. Say Yes to Pressure
              Acupressure stimulates the same points as acupuncture, but with                fingers instead of needles. Michael Reed Gach, Ph.D., director of                the Acupressure Institute in Berkeley, CA, recommends pressing on                the following three points:               
               
The Third Eye, located between the eyebrows, in the indentation where the bridge of the nose meets the forehead. 
                   The Heavenly Pillar, on the back of the neck slightly below the base of the skull, about half an inch to the left or right of the spine.
                    The Heavenly Rejuvenation, half an inch below the top of each shoulder, midway between the base of the neck and the outside of the shoulder blade. 
    Breathe deeply and apply firm, steady pressure on each point for two to three minutes. The pressure should cause a mild aching sensation, but not pain.           
18. Schedule Worry Time              Some stressors demand immediate attention -- a smoke alarm siren               or a police car's whirling red light. But many low-grade stressors                can be dealt with at a later time, when it's more convenient. "File                them away in a little mental compartment, or make a note," Dr. Elkin                says, "then deal with them when the time is right. Don't let them                control you."
19. Shake It Up            This quick exercise helps loosen the muscles in your neck and upper              back, says Dr. Sobel: Stand or sit, stretch your arms out from your              sides and shake your hands vigorously for about 10 seconds. Combine              this with a little deep breathing, Dr. Sobel says, and you'll do yourself              twice as much good.                         
20. Munch Some Snacks              Foods that are high in carbohydrates stimulate the release of serotonin,                feel-good brain chemicals that help induce calm, says Dr. Cooper.                Crackers, pretzels, or a bagel should do the trick.                              
21. Boost Your Vitamin Intake               Elizabeth Somer, R.D., author of 
Food and Mood (Owl Books,                1999), in Salem, OR, recommends that women take a daily multivitamin                and mineral formula that contains between 100% and 300% of the recommended                dietary allowances of vitamin B, as well as the minerals calcium,                magnesium, chromium, copper, iron, manganese, molybdenum, selenium                and zinc. Avoid stress formulas, which often contain large amounts                of randomly formulated nutrients, such as the B vitamins, but little                or nothing else, Somer says.                           
22. Get Horizontal              If sex has been on the bottom of your to-do list for too long, move                it to the top. Sex increases levels of endorphins, those mood-boosting                chemicals in the brain, and it's one of the best total-body relaxers                around, says Louanne Cole Weston, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Sacramento,                CA. Make a date with your mate, and don't let anything get in the                way.                     
23. Admit It              Each of us has uniquely individual stress signals -- neck or shoulder                pain, shallow breathing, stammering, teeth gritting, queasiness,                loss of temper. Learn to identify yours, then say out loud, "I'm                feeling stressed," when they crop up, recommends Dr. Rosch. Recognizing                your personal stress signals helps slow the buildup of negativity                and anxiety.                   
24. Space Out              Look out the window and find something natural that captures your                imagination, advises Dr. Sobel. Notice the clouds rolling by or                the wind in the trees.                  
    25. Try Tea            By now most of us know about the calming properties of chamomile tea.              But a steaming cup of catnip, passionflower, skullcap or kava kava              also work, according to Dr. Duke. Whether you use tea bags or loose              tea (one teaspoon of tea per cup of boiling water), steep for about              10 minutes to get the full benefits of the herbs.                               
26. Take a Walk              It forces you to breathe more deeply and improves circulation, says                Dr. Cooper. Step outside if you can; if that's not possible, you                can gain many of the same benefits simply by walking to the bathroom                or water cooler, or by pacing back and forth. "The key is to get                up and move," Dr. Cooper says.                                 
27. Soak it Up              "When I have the time, nothing is more stress relieving for me than                a hot bath," Dr. Weston says. "But when I don't have time, I do                the next-best thing: I wash my face or even just my hands and arms                with hot water. The key is to imagine that I'm taking a hot bath.                It's basically a visualization exercise, but the hot water makes                it feel real."                              
28. Play a Few Bars              A number of recent studies have shown that music can do everything                from slow heart rate to increase endorphins. Good bets: Bach's "Air on the G-String," Beethoven's 
Pastorale symphony, Chopin's Nocturne in G, Handel's 
Water Music, or pianist George Winston's CDs 
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29. Fall for Puppy Love              In a study of 100 women conducted last year at the State University                of New York at Buffalo, researchers found that those who owned a                dog had lower blood pressure than those who didn't. If you don't                have a pooch, visit a friend's: Petting an animal for just a couple                of minutes helps relieve stress, researchers have found.                           
30. Practice Mindfulness              Heighten your awareness of the moment by focusing intently on an                object. Notice a pencil's shape, color, weight and feel. Or slowly                savor a raisin or a piece of chocolate. Mindfulness leads to relaxation.            
31. Dial a Friend            Sharing your troubles can give you perspective, help you feel cared              for and relieve your burden.                            
32. Stretch              Muscles tighten during the course of the day, and when we feel stressed                out, the process accelerates. Stretching loosens muscles and encourages                deep breathing. Molly Fox, creative fitness director at the Equinox                Fitness Center in New York City, says one of the greatest stress-relieving                stretches is a yoga position called the child pose, which stretches                the back muscles. On a rug or mat, kneel, sit back on your heels,                then lean forward and put your forehead on the floor and your arms                alongside your legs, palms up. Hold for one to three minutes.                              
33. Say a Little Prayer              Studies show that compared with those who profess no faith, religious                and spiritual people are calmer and healthier.                              
34. Make Plans              "Looking forward to something provides calming perspective," Dr.                Elkin says. Buy concert tickets, schedule a weekend getaway, or                make an appointment for a massage.                              
35. Goof Off              It temporarily removes you from a potentially stressful situations.                Esther Orioli, president of Essi Systems, a San Francisco consultant                company that organizes stress-management programs, keeps a harmonica                in the drawer for when she's feeling stressed out. Bonus: Playing                it promotes deep breathing.                           
36. Straighten Up              When people are under stress, they slump over as if they have the                weight of the world on their shoulders. "Slumping restricts breathing                and reduces blood and oxygen flow to the brain, adding to muscle                tension and magnifying feelings of panic and helplessness," Dr.                Cooper explains. Straightening your spine has just the opposite                effect. It promotes circulation, increases oxygen levels in your                blood and helps lessen muscle tension, all of which promote relaxation.                              
37. Tiptoe Through the Tulips              Tending your garden helps get you out of your head and lets you                commune with nature, a known stress reliever. If you're not a gardener,                tend to a houseplant. Plants = growth = cycle of life, a nice reminder                that stress, too, will pass.                                      
Health writer Michael Castleman of San Francisco wrote a home medical guide that combines mainstream and alternative therapies for 100 common complaints, including stress.